Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day — the erotic mind is not very politically correct.

Esther Perel

Quotation #16397

About This Quote


Source: "The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship." TEDSalon NY2013. Feb. 2013. Conference Presentation. Additional Information: This quote by sex therapist Esther Perel illustrates the paradox of sexual desire: the things we say we want in a relationship (such as fidelity and stability) are the opposite of what we are really attracted to (such as mystery and mischief). According to Perel, this is the case because of our conflicting human needs for connection, which is important for maintaining a loving relationship, and separateness, which is important for maintaining sexual desire. The quote is from Perel's 2013 TED Talk on how to maintain sexual desire in a long-term relationship. Watch the full TED Talk here: Esther Perel - The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship