After 14 years, it better be a real marriage, you know? We do have a great time together. We are really lucky.

Sedgwick’s remark treats longevity as proof of substance: after many years together, a relationship should have matured into something stable, committed, and “real,” not merely a long-running romance in name. The casual phrasing (“you know?”) underscores an everyday, pragmatic view of marriage rather than an idealized one. She also emphasizes companionship and shared enjoyment—“a great time together”—as the glue that sustains a partnership over time. The final line frames their bond as partly a matter of gratitude and fortune, suggesting humility about the factors (compatibility, timing, work, circumstance) that allow a marriage to endure, especially under public scrutiny.