One has to grow up with good talk in order to form the habit of it.

Hayes’s remark treats conversation as a learned social art rather than an innate talent. “Good talk” implies not merely fluency but the habits that make dialogue generous and intelligent—listening, tact, curiosity, and a sense of proportion. By saying one must “grow up with” it, she emphasizes early environment: children absorb the conversational norms modeled around them, and repeated exposure turns manners of speech into reflex. The quote also carries a quiet warning: if a household or community lacks thoughtful conversation, it is harder later to acquire the ease and discipline of it. In effect, Hayes links civility and eloquence to upbringing and daily practice.