Do you want to be an artist and a writer, or a wife and a lover? With kids, your focus changes. I don’t want to go to PTA meetings.

In this remark Nicks frames motherhood as a practical and psychological reorientation that competes with the single-mindedness she associates with making art. The blunt contrast—“artist and a writer” versus “wife and a lover”—suggests she experienced creative life as requiring autonomy, mobility, and an inward focus that conventional domestic expectations can constrain. The reference to “PTA meetings” functions as shorthand for the everyday obligations and social roles of parenting, which she implies would pull her away from the intensity and irregular rhythms of touring, composing, and recording. The quote is less a universal claim than a candid articulation of her personal priorities and the trade-offs she believed her career demanded.