I have learned now that while those who speak about one's miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.

The line contrasts two kinds of pain that can follow personal suffering: the pain of being spoken to (or spoken about) in ways that feel clumsy, intrusive, or minimizing, and the pain of being met with silence, which can register as avoidance, indifference, or abandonment. It suggests that even well-meant commentary on another’s misery can wound, but that total non-response may wound more deeply because it denies recognition and companionship. The quote captures a common social dilemma around grief and hardship: people fear saying the wrong thing, yet saying nothing can communicate that the sufferer must carry the burden alone. Its force lies in naming silence as an active harm, not a neutral absence.