'When I look at my partner radiant and confident,’ — [that's] probably the biggest turn-on across the board.

Source: "The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship." TEDSalon NY2013. Feb. 2013. Conference Presentation. Additional Information: This quote is from sex therapist Esther Perel's 2013 TED Talk about how to maintain sexual desire in marriage. This particular quote from the Talk means that people commonly tell her they are turned on by their partner when they see their other half being independent and successful, that is, when they regard their partner from a comfortable distance, so that the person is somewhat mysterious and elusive again. Watch the full TED Talk here: Esther Perel - The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

“The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship.” TEDSalon NY2013. Feb. 2013. Conference Presentation.