Putting our expectations on others is an exercise in pressure and disappointment. Why not accept people just as they are? That's love.

The remark contrasts two approaches to relationships: projecting our own standards onto others versus meeting them with acceptance. “Expectations” here are framed not as healthy hopes but as demands that create pressure for the other person and set the expecter up for resentment when reality diverges. The pivot—“Why not accept people just as they are?”—redefines love as a practice of non-coercive regard: seeing the person clearly, without trying to manage or remake them to fit an internal script. It also implies an ethic of emotional responsibility: disappointment often reveals more about our attachments and control than about the other’s worth.