To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.

The quote challenges the romantic ideal that a preordained “soulmate” will inevitably appear if one simply waits long enough. Calling that belief a paradox, Jami reframes soulmates as something made rather than found: people choose, risk disappointment, and then transform a relationship through sustained commitment. “The art of commitment” suggests skill, practice, and intention—love as a craft rather than fate. The final clause underscores that intimacy and compatibility are not instant recognitions but long-term achievements, refined over years through shared experiences, patience, and mutual growth. In this view, destiny yields to agency: the lifetime is not spent waiting, but building.