I’d say to any woman, get out of that bad relationship that’s turning you into a shell of your former self. Learn from it and get out. Then wait enjoy yourself and your friends because, when what you want comes along, you’ll spot it.

Deeley’s advice frames leaving a harmful relationship as an act of self-preservation and recovery rather than failure. The image of becoming “a shell of your former self” emphasizes how sustained emotional harm can erode identity, confidence, and joy. She urges two sequential steps: first, exit and extract lessons; second, rebuild a life that is satisfying on its own terms—through friends, pleasure, and self-directed time—so that future partners are chosen from wholeness rather than need. The final point, “you’ll spot it,” suggests that clarity and healthy standards return once distance from dysfunction restores perspective.